Alright, here goes. Since I was 16 I have always said I was going to write a book titled "Flo Knows", so this seems like the best place to get started and write about all the things Flo does know. I could go on for hours about all the things I have learned so far in life but I guess I'll start with the most recent thing that has come up from the past weekend. First things first, let me explain that I am not the kind of person who is always wanting to be in a relationship, I'd rather wait forever for someone I am 100% invested in then date several people I am not fully attracted to. I usually avoid hooking up with friends or acquaintances due to the fact that I rarely want anything to do with them afterwards and it leads to awkward hang outs or loss of friendship.
Last week I made the mistake of doing the one thing I try to avoid at all costs and came to the realization that this casual thing that everyone wants and expects just isn't a real possibility. I have always attempted to do the casual game because I know it is what guys want from a girl, but is it possible for things to always stay casual? It seems unlikely. Nothing is ever casual, sex and relationships are two things that need passion and lust and intensity. Why would you date someone who doesn't make you feel alive and just a little bit crazy. It's as if everybody loves to pretend that they don't care about each other, but in the end where does that get two people? It's a big game everyone wants to play without realizing the repercussions. Am I suppose to pretend not to be interested in you so that you can become interested in me. I'd rather have crazy short lived passion then a long drawn out casual but painfully annoying relationship, everyone wants casual but there really is no casual way to go about this kind of stuff. People, including me are way to crazy for casual. All men these days have v casual expectations. Everyone I have dated in the past five years has said something or another about how they don't understand why girls have so many expectations, expectations are what get us places. If no one had any expectations no one would do anything for anyone, relationships wouldn't advance into something more meaningful, and everything would stay "casual". I guess that's why guys hope there are no expectations, they want casual forever. People delude themselves into believing they want these zero commitment 'label less' relationships but I think that stems from fear and insecurity. Everybody feels it but think nobody else does so they never give themselves wholly to anything or anyone. Maybe it's just my group of friends, but they are all hitting late 20's and doing everything possible to NOT get into a relationship, as if it's some unthinkable horror having someone be your girlfriend or having to admit you're in a relationship. Are they really enjoying this casual approach to relationships or does it just seem like the easiest way to live their lives when they have no idea what they are doing with themselves.
I have to say I am completely over this casualness towards relationships, maybe it's because I am just too crazy to be casual myself(who am I kidding, obviously), but I do know that casual always ends in tears and several bad hang overs. It seems that the casual relationship is the way of the future, but that's just paving the way for more and more assholes to treat girls poorly just because they are not expected to do any better. I say down with the casual relationship, next time someone tells me they are only looking for casual you'll catch me running in the other direction. Be yourself and be upfront about what you want and what you expect.
~Flo
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